Things everyone wants to know about their relationship
For many couples, marriage is considered to be one of the best things that ever happened to them. They’ve spent countless hours together, shared so much without expectations, and made their love an indelible part of their existence — and there are few things as special as this kind of union.
Unfortunately, what does it actually take for either spouse to feel truly settled in their relationship? Is it really enough to just put up with someone else? Or do we really need to go through the pain of heartbreak to build a deeper connection?
It can often seem like one person will always find themselves stuck on being married. It’s only natural to seek out those who have been able to achieve a happy ending, but what about all marriages out there where a couple doesn’t see eye to eye? What if there were no perfect couples out there? Where does friendship fit into relationships? These are questions I hope you'll enjoy answering:
1) Why did you choose your partner? The first step for any relationship is deciding on why they deserve your undivided attention. Perhaps you’re looking for happiness or companionship. Maybe you just love each other. Whatever the reasons, you need to know that you’re not choosing your partner to be a certain way — you’re choosing a partner who fits your needs and desires perfectly. This includes personality traits, likes and dislikes, and any other aspects that define your relationship. While it may feel great when your partner shows genuine interest in everything that you have going on, it’s essential to realize that everyone has their own unique quirks, preferences, and quirks. It's important to understand that these differences needn't define your partnership — it might just mean it's getting easier to connect.
2) How long have you been dating? When you’re first starting out, you need to consider how long you’ll stick with your current boyfriend/girlfriend. If it seems you get along well after a week, it’s time to see if you two could become more serious and build a stronger bond. You don’t necessarily have to commit to a specific length of time between your partners — even five years would be a good time frame for relationship longevity.
3) Do you think you are compatible? Relationships aren't easy, and some couples just haven't struck gold yet. In fact, they may never. However, when you both think you're compatible with one another, you'll know when you both want to explore something new— or get closer to making the commitment you crave. Once you've figured things out on your own, it's time to start working toward settling down.
4) Can I expect a lot from you? Most of us don't have our lives mapped out in stone; however, we want our partners to give us a reason to smile. Whether it's daily visits, texts or calls, it’s important to try to keep the romance alive in order to have a satisfying relationship.
5) Does he/she make me laugh? Not having a sense of humor is a big problem for most couples — especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. So what should you do? Learn the art of dry humor by watching funny skits or reading funny books by others. Try showing affection via touch or hugs; sometimes, even the thought of laughing can make a serious situation bearable.
6) How much do you spend on groceries, the bills, etc.? Many people don't realize how much they spend on their partner — and that means they won’t actually be spending money on anything outside of food. As soon as you’re comfortable discussing finances and putting aside your money to buy gifts, take pride in your partner’s ability to help out financially.
7) Are you a team player? No matter what your professional life looks like, it’s important to acknowledge that there are elements of yourself that make your partner stand out, too. Look for ways to compliment and appreciate them whenever it comes to other aspects of their lives, such as work, hobbies, etc.
8) How are you feeling about your current job and career? At least from my perspective, it’s important to ask yourself how you feel about every aspect of your career. Some jobs and careers are easier than others, so don’t assume that your partner loves everything he/she does — instead, try to see the bright side of his/her job and career.
9) What kind of hobbies does he/she like to do? Every one of us has different interests, so try to talk in a neutral tone while still giving him/her space to expand upon what he/she enjoys.
10) Do you both have a favorite song? Music has probably been one of the cornerstones of relationships since forever. Show him/her some passion every once in a while by playing your favorite songs together.
11) Have you met anyone interesting lately? A relationship isn't based solely around finding love — so it's important to pay attention to the people you spend your time with. Start adding other factors, such as your favorite musician, to the equation whenever possible.
12) Tell me about “the good stuff." There's nothing wrong with sharing personal details about yourself; however, it's common practice to share small bits of information about yourself around your significant other.
13) Do you talk about sports? Sports are very popular in American culture, so it's worth mentioning that you should do the same when talking with friends or family members. Talking about your favorite teams or games is an excellent way for him/her to express himself/herself and can be extremely therapeutic to discuss with them.
14) Are you both involved in extracurricular activities together? Your social life depends on his/her role in yours. Don't forget that they may also value the independence that comes with participating in non-traditional leisure pursuits. 15) Do you have similar passions in life, music, TV shows, etc.? Having similarities in certain areas of your life gives your partner something to look forward to with their day. Being open to exploring these kinds of connections is one of the benefits of opening yourself up to new possibilities.
16) Should I worry about getting hurt? Because a physical altercation doesn't always have to happen (unless you’re arguing over something trivial), physical interaction goes a long way in building a strong connection. 17) How much do you trust each other? Trust is built up over time; however, it's important to respect one another's boundaries and opinions.
18) Does he/she encourage emotional honesty? Openness about feelings is a key ingredient for good communication.
20) Do you enjoy seeing him/her happy? Be sure to tell her/his smile from ear to ear whenever you see him/him smiling.
21) Who can I call in case of urgent issues? A solid relationship is not defined by how close you can be with your loved one — it’s about respecting his/her boundaries and trying to resolve concerns quickly and efficiently.
22) Do you stay consistent during arguments? Strong, loving partnerships don't change, and disagreements are bound to pop up at times.
23) What do you like doing together? Sometimes the answer is simple: whatever makes you mad!
24) Are both of you available if we need to talk? Remember that it's your responsibility — like you said earlier — to build up your support system and take care of the needs of your partner.
25) What else should I keep in mind? Just because your relationship is healthy doesn’t mean you shouldn’t think about other types of things. Even though you don’t plan on calling your parents or grandparents, it’s still very advisable to call your children or close friends to check up on how things are going in your loved ones' lives.
26) Is he/she jealous or possessive? If you feel that your partner is jealous of your achievements and achievements in the past, don’t push him/her to behave that way again.
27) Does she/he treat me the same way everyday? Getting the approval of your significant other often hinges on the extent to which they accept you as an individual. If they show signs of disassociation or lack of appreciation for you, it might be beneficial to speak to a counselor or therapist before putting her/his trust in you.
28) Do you communicate on both sides of the argument, or just one side? Conflict is often rooted in poor communication and/or misunderstanding on both sides — and it’s crucial to learn how to properly and effectively communicate about any conflict.
29) Are you able to compromise? By learning how to compromise, you’ll hopefully end up getting a fair shake in the future.
30) What else do you think is wrong? Each year, I spend many months researching topics that are prevalent in our society for this list. During this process, I’ll come across a topic that has been highly publicized lately, and then try to bring myself back to reality to see why it makes me upset.
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Does he/she take initiative? Taking initiative requires that he/she take charge of the outcome of any meeting.
32) How do you find pleasure in being alone, or spending time with friends? Instead of turning off your phone for unnecessary conversations, try focusing on activities that you can control and enjoy instead.
33) How much sex do you like? When I was younger, I used to fantasize about boys who wanted to date me; however, today I think of women as sexy, desirable, and romantic.
34) What’s on your bucket list? Going on "bucket list" doesn't
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